A couple of weeks ago I decided to take the plunge and open up a Facebook account as Katie Amor. I wasn’t sure what to expect from this decision. I thought it might be something like my guy Facebook account, where I have a small number of close friends who I’m connect with, and for the most part, there isn’t a whole lot going on. I might check it a couple of times a day. But what I encountered was a bit overwhelming, actually a LOT overwhelming. I was close to saying “the heck with it all, I’m done”, and deactivate the account.
I started out by sending a few friend request and figured it would take a long time to build up a friends list of people I’d like to befriend. Things changed in an exponential way when on one particular day this week I got 80 friend requests! This was insane, and they kept coming, day after day, hundreds of people. I was spending a LOT of time going through the list and seeing if I knew the person, or if I even wanted to accept the request, and of course as I’m doing this, the requests keep piling on. This is not something I’m used to and it started to overwhelm me.
The worst part were the requests from people who apparently had no problem posting all kinds of near naked pictures, or other tasteless things. I even got a couple of really creepy messages that totally threw me off. Stuff out of a horror movie. After taking a couple of days off, and thinking about it, I decided the best thing to do was to hack away at my friends list, set up a standard for myself to accept new requests, and keep things small and simple to manage. I’d like to use my account to be able to connect with the small number of people or groups I’d like to comment on as Katie Amor. I don’t want to have this huge thing where I’m spending tons of time managing it. I want to spend time with my friends/family, reading some more David Sedaris books, and catch up on some video games I’ve missed out on (Skyrim takes up a lot of time).
Lesson learned: Setup a standard for yourself, especially if you’re someone who doesn’t want everyone in the world to know or comment on what you do. Keep things small and simple, it’ll help to cut down on the stress and anxiety.
“If I want to be accepted as I am, then I need to be willing to accept others as they are. It is arrogant to set standards for others.” -Louise Hay
I’ve been lucky to have a wife and close friends who have shown support for me since starting this blog and I do my best to return that appreciation in accepting the decisions others make with their lives. I hope that in the future, more and more people will realize that we all want to be accepted for who we are and that holding everyone to that same standards just doesn’t make sense.
Have a great weekend everyone,