“Can You Please Change to a Boy?”
Those words from my four year old nephew, which will be explained shortly, but first things first, wow has it been a long time since I’ve written a blog post. So what’s happened since my last post, besides leaving it collect dust on the heap of forgotten blogs? Well, the biggest thing that’s taken place, and what’s consumed quite a bit of time is the fact that we searched for our first home, found it, bought it, moved into it, have been doing quite a bit of work in it, and now enjoying it.
Since my last post I’ve gotten some new ideas of things to write about as it relates to Katie in my everyday life. The first story has to do with video games. I’ve always enjoyed playing video games, having great memories as a kid waking up early on a weekend morning to play some Nintendo with my brother. Early on, whenever there was an option to choose a character, I would often go for the female role. In recent years I’ve created and played female characters in games like Skyrim and Animal Crossing and really get a kick out of it. One reason is the fact that I enjoy seeing female characters as the lead role, as the heroine, and of course I’m able to play as my alter ego in a way.
This leads to our new home. Once we moved, we bought a new gaming console in order to be able to play with my wife’s brother and his four year old son. Online gaming has been something I’ve shied away from because most of my friends don’t play games and I don’t like to play with complete strangers. But now that we have some family who are gamers, I wanted to connect with them more often, especially with my nephew through some games.
Minecraft is my nephew’s favorite game, a game where you can be whom ever you want and create anything you want. Just up my alley! So of course I choose to play as a girl, in this case a mermaid (how fun!). As soon as my nephew saw me in the game he said “why are you a girl?” and then “can you please change to a boy?”. It was a strange feeling. It was adorable and totally broke my heart at the same time. To realize that at age four, kids already know what gender roles to play in order to keep within societies rules, and the fact that my brother-in-law and his son don’t yet know about the real truth. The truth that I can’t stop my feminine side from expressing its self.
This strange feeling didn’t last long as I took it upon myself to disobey his request, I wasn’t going to change, and in fact I get a kick out of annoying him, in a fun way that is. Now that we’ve been playing online once or twice a week now for several months, he doesn’t even bring the issue up anymore. I guess we’ve just got to stick to our principles, and along the way help a four year old realize that you can play and be anyone.