Monthly Archives: January 2014

A Tale of Two Wigs

For a while now I’ve been thinking that I’m well overdue for a new wig.  A synthetic wig only last so long, and I’m assuming much less when you’re new to the world of wigs and don’t completely know how to take care of them.   I’ve only owned a handful of wigs, and my favorite one I use all the time is my Jon Renau Zara wig.  It was my first expensive wig, and after spending a lot of time online researching colors, styles, and brands, I was rewarded with an amazing head of hair.  So, when it came time last month to take advantage of amazing online deals, which new wig would I go for?

Looking back now to when I first purchased my Zara wig, almost two and a half years ago, I’ve developed a style around it that has represented who I am.  A lot of the style comes from the clothes I choose for my figure, along with the style and color of my hair.  With that said, I found it very hard to picture myself wearing a different style or color, especially since I’ve gotten many compliments already with what I have now.  It was at this point that the decision was clear to me, I would purchase the same wig in the same color (130-4), and I couldn’t be happier.

I thought it would be a great idea to show how my wig has changed over the course of its use when compared to a brand new one.  It’s important to note that during the first year I had my original Zara wig, I don’t know how to take care of it at all and I’m sure its current condition reflects that neglect.  I now wash my wigs on a regular basis with the proper wig shampoos and conditioners.  The only difference between the two is that I was able to find my new Zara wig in a larger cap size, which works great for my head.

One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed is from the lace-front part to the wig.  The old wig has thinned quite a bit over the years when you compare it to the thicker cap of the new one.  Another noticeable difference comes from the condition of the fibers, especially towards the ends.  The old fibers are rough and frizzled, compared to the smooth fibers of the new one.  One of the surprises I found was that the color of the old wig didn’t fade much over the years, if at all.

Now that I have two Zara wigs, I plan to use the old one for days I’m just being lazy around the apartment, and use the new one for days I go out on the town.  With the experience I’ve gained I’m sure I’ll be able to better care for my new investment, and I’ll have to see who the new Zara looks like in two years.

Have a great week everyone,



From Two to Three

That’s right folks, I’m starting my third year writing on this blog, and the fourth year since rediscovering who I am, in an effort to be a more complete individual.  This past year has been meet with achievements and setbacks, goals achieved, goals missed, and accomplishments of things I never thought possible.

Looking back to what I wrote last January, my goals for this past year were very vague.  I wasn’t quite sure at the time of specific things I wanted to do for the year, I just let the time go by and tried to live in the moment.  Some of the goals I wanted to achieve didn’t quite get checked off.  I didn’t go out much and I didn’t get myself involved in the local community as much as I wanted.

DSC_0036On the other side, there have been many positive achievements I’ve been able to accomplish over the past year.  I’ve continued the trend of coming out to close friends, which has lead to some very interesting and deep conversations about society, trans, and gender issues, all of which have been very rewarding.  I continue to work on defining my style and of course taking advantage of sales whenever possible.  I’m happy that I FINALY bought my first little black dress, something I ‘ve hesitated over because of worry on how a dress would work with my figure.  The end result…I couldn’t be happier.

Making more connections online, through Facebook and Instagram, has opened my world up to so many new and wonderful friends, while at the same time dealing with the dark side to some in the social media landscape, which at times cause a bit of anxiety.

Of course the most significant achievement of last year would be coming out to my mom, a goal that wasn’t on my radar at the beginning of the year, but started to develop after a visit from my parents in the summer.  That visit lead to the idea that it was time to at least tell my mom about how happy this aspect of my life has made me, and how I have become a more perfect individual by acknowledging the feminine side to my identity.

I am happy that over the last two years I’ve been able to share my thoughts and feelings as I deal with the equilibrium between my masculine and feminine sides.  I’m happy that many visitors have found these stories and thoughts useful; as I am sometimes hesitant to give outright advise.  I see advise as a hard topic to grasp, especially when everyone’s situation is so different from mine.  I find that stories and thoughts are more useful, and the more stories you can read from a diverse group of individuals, the more one can gain a perspective on the past, present, and future.

So, what’s in the future?  Nothing specific, only general goals similar to last year.  I would like to go out more and make some connections in the local community.  I’ve also been thinking that there are so many great friends I’ve made in the past two years I would love to meet.  So I would love to take any advantage to meet these great individuals in person.

I wish you all a great weekend and a happy 2014.

Much love,