Monthly Archives: August 2012

Superhero Dad

Another great story my wife forwarded me from BuzzFeed.  This dad could have easily forced his son to conform to the norms of society, but instead supported his son as a positive role model.  Such an awesome story.



Friday Quote

It’s nice to be back home from our little vacation.  Spending some time with family and unplugging from the digital world (as much as possible at least).  We took the advantage to stop by a MAC pro store in Nashville on our drive home to feed my makeup addiction.  I’ll write about what I got later, after I get a chance to try them out.

Here’s a little quote to end the week:

“You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one.  Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own.  It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle”.  Paulo Coelho

Have a great weekend everyone,


Creative Release

Having some fun with some of those photo editing apps

Having some fun with some of those photo editing apps

I have read that crossdressers often state that dressing up is a way to relieve stress built up, among many others reasons.  I have found that this can be so true.  In general, doing anything that makes you happy should relieve that stress.  Yesterday would be a perfect example.  After a crapy day at work, feeling stressed out finishing things up before our little vacation, I decided I needed a little release.  I usually save my dress up days for the weekend, when I can lounge around most of the day, but today I broke out my makeup kit and had some fun.  Plus a little practice never hurt anyone.  I tried out some new things, like adding glitter to my eye makeup, and contouring my face a lot more than I have tried before.  By the time I was done, my thoughts were in the present, with my issues at work behind me.  Just what I needed.

Now that I’m getting better at makeup, and really enjoying the creativity that it gives me, I’m thinking that I need to learn how to do some drag queen looks.  As I’ve said before, I’ve been catching up on RuPaul’s Drag Race on Netflix, which has lead me to wanting to do some dramatic looks.  Thankfully there are so many great tutorials on YouTube, which I’ll start to study up on after we get back from vacation.  Looks like I’ll be expanding my makeup collection. 😉



There’s nothing like a little shopping to make a girl feel great, and gurl let me tell you, I’m feeling just fine.  I’m siting at my computer, writing, jamming to some music, and wearing some new threads I got yesterday.  I did some online shopping and found an awesome deal on a Calvin Kline top, which should be here sometime next week.  Yesterday, after a long time of not doing much shopping, my wife K and I went to our favorite second hand shop in town.  This shop sell used name brand items at prices I can love.  We sometimes get in trouble when we go there because K loves Coach purses, and they have a wide selection of them.  Anyways, this weekend was tax-free shopping, so we took advantage and bought some nice clothes.  I got some guy clothes and some clothes for Katie.  I was able to get an awesome silk top, which feels great for the summer time, and my first dress.

We then headed over to the mall to get some help from my good friend at the MAC cosmetics counter.  I have a Maybelline lip stick in my favorite shade, and my friend was able to help me find a MAC lip stick (Dark Side) and lip gloss (Decorative) in a similar shade, and they feel great on my lips.  After that, we hit up an ice cream stand to cool off, and headed home.

After reading a post from Nadine, over at Unordinary Style, I’ve decided to start keeping a photo album of each one of my outfits.  I’ll be able to learn how to better build an outfit with the pieces I have if I try on different combinations each time I get dressed, and keeping a record will help me learn what works and what doesn’t.

With that said, I hope you all had a great weekend.


What a Character

Lately I’ve been watching some of RuPaul’s Drag Race on Netflix (along with some of the Olympics ).  I normally don’t like reality shows, mainly because I hate the way some shows create drama and conflict for the sake of ratings. I started catching up on Drag Race because I remember watching RuPaul’s talk show in the 90’s (only occasionally when I could sneak past my parents late at night to watch tv) and it really made an impression on me, and also because Karen from transbeautiful wrote an awesome post on her experience at a drag show.  To think that you could transform from a man to a stunning woman with an impressive personality.  The show also seems to have become very popular among regular viewers.   There are actually several restaurants and pubs around Memphis that have special RuPaul’s Drag Race viewing nights.

This whole topic has brought up a question for myself.  Looking back through my blog, I’ve had a habit of referring to myself in the third person.  I talk a lot about how Katie does this and that, and what Katie means to me.  Is Katie a character in my mind in a way? Drag queens have certain personas and characters they display on stage, which can be very different from their male self.  But I’m no drag queen, although it would be awesome to watch a drag show in person.

I think I use the third person a lot as a way to work through my thoughts as it relates to a new aspect to my life, which are still developing as part of my identity.  When I get dressed up as Katie and lounge around the apartment, I don’t feel like a different person.  I’m not sure if that will change as I continue to dress from time to time, and one day venture out with friends.

In a way, I’m hopping that by working on my complete identity, it will end up making me a better, more well rounded person.  There are some aspects to my character which I don’t like so much and have tried to improve.  I am a shy person and it takes me time to open up and trust new people.  This results in me being the quiet person in the corner of the party, keeping to himself.  We were invited to a friend’s house a couple of weeks ago to a party where I didn’t know anyone else beyond our host.  By the end of the night I was disappointed that I hadn’t talked to many people, and I just felt isolated and lonely.

I’m hoping that Katie will help me break out of my shell.  I’m hoping that I’ll become a more open and talkative person and let go of the vulnerability I feel sometimes when meeting new people.  So I guess I see Katie as a way to become a better person, not as a separate character from myself.

We’ll see how things turn out.  At least I’m looking forward to a nice weekend of shopping at some second hand stores.  Have a great weekend everyone!